Kalahari: Women and their quest for the perfect man
The other day, I was listening to a conversation between a few women that I am aquainted with. They were all successful in their own rights: 2 lawyers, 1 accountant, 1 lady had her own business, another was a school teacher, another was a waitress of some sort and the last was a “big time” manager in a major hotel. Their ages ranged from 26 -36, all making good money, independent, successful, yet all single, (i.e. not in a long term relationship, or involved for morethan a year), except for one. Exactly which one doesn’t matter. Any way the conversation questioned: Where are all the good men? The response was, there are none, and if there are some left, they are either married, gay of have issues.
I was disappointed and hurt. For there are all kinds of single and decent men out there and I was in disbelief that they could not find not even one.
So I questioned what was the criteria that they are looking for in a man? And they responded: average height 5′9″ to 6′1″, (well that cuts me out, (smiles)), well built to muscular, very athletic, successful at whatever job he is employed at, however, making in the 6 digit range or able to purchase extravagant gifts every so often. (hmmmm) Has his own house, or a nice apartment, own car, (the type of car didn’t matter), well dressed, he must love and respect his mother, nonetheless, not be a momma’s boy. He must be church oriented, however not a fanatic. Their man must also be deeply in love and devoted to them. So, I concluded, what about just having a man who just loves you?
Posted by
at
21:58:21
loves does not feed a hungry belly. you have to be specific in what you want or youll get anything. These women have standards (though they could be viewed as superficial; “nice house”)that they dont want to stray away from…I even had a poem I wrote called “someone” I had that”someone” but the thought never left my mind that maybe he could mess with punks on the side. such as life.
Thanks for responding TB,
But it appears as if today’s women want much more than just their bellies filled. They want the world with a bow on it. I don’t believe that women should settle, but at least give a sincere man a chance.
I hope you find and post that poem of yours; would love to read and critigue it.
not for you to butcher my poem oh no you wont!
TB,
laughing…no man I wouldn’t butcher your poem. I would be more than happy to appreciate your view on through verse on this topic.
Anyway, feel free to post your comments to any other topic within this blog. Also if you are interested you can always join:fSite:
http://groups.msn.com/Spokenwordpoetsinthebahamas
This site has over 100 Bahamian poets who post their works regularly.
CN
Well, there is alot to elborate on with this topic. Firstly, there are primary and secondary attributes that women look for in men. While some women believe that there are no good men left, I believe that they are in the making. The Bible says ” He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing.” This is clear that women are not the ones to search for men, even though that isn’t the way it is today.
Some women are caught up in superficial ideads about relationships. Women sometimes allow the secondary attributes influence the primary ones, No one can show anybody true love unless they experience it from the creator himself, most of us are use to “counterfeits”.
If a man loves me I wouldnt have to be concerned with him buying nice gifts, being faithfull, honest etc (it’s that simple). Look for a man who is constanly trying to make better for himself, having a car or a house or living in a nice apartment should not be all. Look for a man that know how to spend what he has wisely. Just because you make more doesn’t mean he knows how to budget. There are alot of good men and good women, strive to be the better one.. It’s all about who has a better package (not talking pysical). Women we are not assets, we make men who they are we “bring out the best, we compliment, we refine” Lets Live up to our purpose.
GM
What you saying Glennese?
I find that women always have a number of reasons for dating a man. Men date over looks…women seem to like security and social praise…whereas men tend to settle for someone who can take care of them and their family emotionally; women although simular, always seem to desire possessions. Of course there are always exception to the rule…so what do you look for first in a man? laughing